How To Become a Findom In 2023 (The Ruthless Guide)

There’s a fetish for everything under the sun, and one fetish that’s come to particular prominence in the past few years is financial domination – or ‘Findom’, for short. 

What is Findom? Simply put, it’s controlling a man by controlling or manipulating his finances. It takes a great many forms, which we’ll get into below, but what it isn’t is simply taking money off a guy for nothing in return. It’s a little more complicated than that. 

”Does your wife know I’m the reason you can’t spoil her anymore?”

For those women who can master the art of Findom, it’s an extremely lucrative profession that can see you making hundreds of thousands of dollars at all. And despite how it sounds, you’re not taking advantage of anybody. The guys involved in Findom get off on this form of financial domination, after all. 

Let’s take a more in-depth at Findom – what it is, what it isn’t, and how you can become a successful Findom and make money in 2023.

What Is Findom? 

As stated, Findom is short for ‘financial domination’. But what does this mean in practice? There are many ways of dominating or controlling someone’s finances, but as a fetish, it typically involves one or more of the following: 

• Accepting ‘tribute’ (cash gifts) 
• Shopping trips where the sub foots the whole bill (or sends gift cards or the like to cover it) 
• Taking complete control of the sub’s financial decisions
• Sending gifts/cash cards etc. 

Findom has its own lexicon of terms. Findom subs are quite often called ‘paypigs’, ‘money slaves’, or ‘human ATMs’. Findoms themselves might be called a ‘Findomme’, ‘money mistress’, ‘cash mistress’, or ‘goddess’. Be sure that you’re familiar with the lingo to make sure that potential paypigs know that you’re serious. 

It’s often said that Findom is a psychological fetish rather than a visual one, and money slaves generally have no expectation of anything sexual in return for the Findom experience – the experience is, in itself, a sexually arousing one for them. 

What Kind Of Men Are Into Findom? 

Quite often, the sort of men who want to be paypigs are powerful in their daily lives. They could be executives in extremely well-paid positions or affluent professionals, for instance.

The turn-on in Findom is the utter loss of financial control, and it appeals to men who are usually very highly controlling and are seeking a form of humiliation behind closed doors. 

How Can You Become A Findom? 

Let’s quickly address the wrong way to become a Findom – going on Twitter and simply asking men for money (or, worse, begging).

This is a surefire way to turn potential paypigs completely off. They’re not looking for someone who asks or begs. They’re looking for someone to dominate them. 

That out of the way; let’s look at how you can become a Findom. 

Find A Website To Advertise To Paypigs 

You can’t be a Findom without some paypigs to dominate. That means getting yourself out there and advertising your services. 

Good websites for Findoms to put themselves out there include ManyVids and LoyalFans. Both are great for looking for potential cash slaves and clarifying what, exactly, you offer. 

Develop A Persona 

Findom is, as noted, a psychological fetish – and it’s important that you develop a persona that’s appropriate for that psychological feeling of being powerless and handing over control. 

For many men, that involves a strong, powerful, independent woman that barely sees her paypigs as anything more than money (hence the nickname ‘human ATM’).

You’re not going to be smiley or giggly, and you’re not necessarily going to be dressing provocatively. It’s all about demeanor and attitude. 

Work On Your Organization And Budgeting Skills  

This may sound tedious and unrelated – you’re a Findom, not an accountant – but the fact is that many paypigs get off on surrendering their budgeting to their mistresses. That means managing their accounts and allocating money to them that they can live on or pay bills with. 

“The more money they make, the more money they can allocate to me, and the richer I get.”

– Victoria Silver in the Buzzfeed article: She Earned $34,000 In One Month Through Financial Domination.

This means that you might need to pay careful attention to their budgetary needs and things like due dates for bills etc. Not just for the purposes of making sure that they have the money to pay those bills, necessarily – they may get off on financial uncertainty (meaning that you might withhold the money until the last minute) or hardship (meaning you might withhold it until after the bill is due, incurring late fees or other penalties). 

Agree Upon Hard And Soft Limits

Findom falls under the BDSM umbrella, and like any BDSM activity, it’s important that both parties are clear on where they stand beforehand. 

You’ll need to have a discussion with your paypig before you get started and agree upon their limits. These might include soft limits (things that you can push them on, but not too much – e.g. withholding utility bill money) and hard limits (things that they absolutely cannot be pushed upon at all – this might be medical bills or something else crucial). 

Agreeing upon – and respecting – limits is as important for Findom as for anything else. If you want to be a successful money mistress, it’s absolutely vital you bring up (and stick to) limits. 

Use Social Media To Market Yourself  

One of the most effective ways of picking up new paypigs is to get yourself out there on social media. Facebook isn’t the best bet with this (it’s too linked to real names and family lives etc.), so stick to things like Twitter, Instagram, and – best of all – Reddit.

Reddit has the benefit of being relatively anonymous, with backup and throwaway accounts common, and so it’s a great way for both parties to separate their Findom life from their other one. 

Findomming Ain’t Easy, But it Can Be Lucrative! 

Becoming a Findom isn’t the easiest thing in the world, but if you stick with it and land a whale or two, it can be extremely lucrative.

Just be prepared to stick out a few months while you get set up, establish your persona, and get active on social media, and you’ll soon have an army of money slaves at your beck and call, eager to spend their life’s savings on making you happy. 

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