The Insider Guide to Becoming a Femdom Cam Girl in 2023

With the rise of cam sites, there’s inevitably been a rise in fetish cam work. One of the most popular subgenres on any cam site is ‘femdom cam girls’ – that is, ‘female domination’.

Femdom models basically wear the pants in any interactions with their viewers, telling them what to do and how to do it. They’re massively popular and typically attract a lot of viewers. 

However, becoming a webcam Domme isn’t an instant give-me-money button. Doing it properly takes time and effort, as well as ensuring that you cultivate a certain demeanor.

All of this is easy to learn but hard to master, which in turn means that only the best Femdom cam girls end up making top dollar. 

With that in mind, let’s take a look at how you can end up at the top of the Femdom pile with a few simple tips and tricks… 

Cultivate Your Own Femdom Brand 

Femdom is a subgenre of its own, but it can be further divided into sub-subgenres. These include (but are not limited to) nude body worship, smoking, humiliation (whether verbal or physical), giantess, vore, spit, pantyhose, and many other niche fetishes crossed with female domination. We’ll detail the fundamental Femdom niches below. 

Pick your poison, and make it a huge part of your act and your advertising. You don’t need to stick to a single Femdom niche, but the more specific you are (and the clearer you are about your chosen niches), the more satisfied your viewer base will be. 

There are three basic kinds of domination: 

Humiliation 

Subs into humiliation like to be talked down to and told how inferior they are. One of the more popular fetishes in this field is small penis humiliation (commonly abbreviated to SPH), but subs can also enjoy being ridiculed for their weight, baldness, shortness, poorness, and any other negative characteristics you can imagine. 

Worship

If humiliation is about the sub’s inferiority, then this is about your superiority. Subs who like this get off on worshipping different parts of your body (feet, boobs, ass, etc.) or may like being cuckolded by you. 

Pain 

Pain subs want to be hurt, basically. Their body is worthless, and they offer it up to you as a sacrifice. This can include CBT (cock and ball torture), slapping, spanking, pegging, human ashtray, and much more.

Get Used To Issuing Sub Tasks 

Where there are doms, there are also subs. ‘Sub’ is an abbreviation of ‘submissive’ and refers, in the case of cam Femdoms, to your viewers. Subs are also often referred to as ‘slaves’. 

As a successful Domme, you’ll need to become pretty domineering and get used to telling your slaves/subs what to do. This means setting tasks for them, whether sending you money (part of the ‘Findom’ – financial domination – fetish), hurting themselves, writing down humiliating things about themselves, or anything else that gets them off. 

A big part of making it as a Domme is hitting on tasks that get your slaves off. Remember that they want to be dominated and humiliated – but figuring out how to dominate and humiliate them is very much your job. 

Understand The Difference Between Devoted And Casual Subs 

As a Domme, you’ll come across two kinds of subs. One kind will be completely devoted to you – they’ll visit you exclusively, subscribe to your rules and your rules alone, and will be extremely loyal to you and your brand. 

Casual subs, however, will drift from Femdom to Femdom and will represent a more temporary form of the viewer. This isn’t to say that they’re worse than your devoted slaves – tips are tips, no matter where they come from – but it’s better to have regulars that you can rely on. 

If you want to be the best Domme you can be, then it behooves you to try to convert those casual wandering subs into slavishly devoted disciples. Whenever you spot a casual in your chat, do your best to impress them with your strictness and inventive sub tasks. 

Establish Your Subs’ Interests And Limits 

Subs might be slaves in practice, but they’re not actual slaves, and they may have a few hard limits that they’re not willing to compromise.

It can be tough to act like a hardnosed dominatrix while also trying to figure out/respect those boundaries, but for a master Dominatrix, maintaining such a balancing act is essential. 

The easiest way to figure out those limits and interests is simply to ask – but it might not be in your character to ‘ask’ about anything. Establishing a safeword is another good way of ensuring that you’re not going too far with your subs. 

This is easier with regular subs, with whom you’ll have an established relationship and whose limits and interests you’re likely to know.

However, when it comes to casuals, it’s important that you don’t turn them off by going too far and ensuring that they simply look for another Domme to fulfill their desires. 

Types Of Limits

There are effectively two types of limits in the sub/dom relationship: hard and soft. 

Soft limits are things that your subs aren’t really interested in, but they’d be willing to be ‘pushed’ on it if you demanded it. Part of the fem/dom relationship is, after all, a willingness on the sub’s part to be dominated, and that will include doing things that they might not want to. 

Hard limits are not to be pushed under any circumstances. Your sub is simply not interested in such things, and testing hard limits is a surefire way to lose a devoted sub quickly. Needless to say, it’s imperative that you know what a sub’s hard limits are so you never accidentally breach them. 

Establishing these limits can be a good way of quickly eliminating time-wasters. Subs who claim they have no limits at all, for instance, can be safely blocked. Everybody has limits, and to claim otherwise is disingenuous (if you don’t believe this, demand that a sub perform a self-castration and see how fast they U-turn on their lack of limits). 

Being a Femdom Cam Girl Isn’t Always Easy, But It’s Always Rewarding 

Becoming a successful Femdom cam girl isn’t particularly easy, but if you have a gift for domination and the willingness to indulge clients’ fetishes (and respect their limits), it can be very lucrative.

It’s simply a matter of establishing your brand and a dedicated stable of devoted slaves. We wish you the best of luck in your domination journey!