Cam sites are revolutionizing the adult industry as we know it and have grown into an enormous industry, and it’s not hard to see why. Did you know that the average adult cam girl is said to make over $58 per hour?
No longer are consumers limited to passively consuming videos, but they can now actually be part of their online sexual experiences.
With this comes a new level of intensity and immersiveness, especially with the advent of the latest cam girl accessories on offer – but on the flip side of that coin is interaction with a stranger. And for some of us, interacting with cam girls can be daunting.
If you’re not used to interacting with cam girls, then it can be hard to know what to do. How much should you talk? What should you say? Should you be sexually forward or wait for her to initiate things? When/how do you pay?
All of these questions can make your first time with a cam girl really intimidating and can put some people off completely. Luckily, we’re here to help you through the teething pains and onto the more enjoyable aspects of camming.
Without further ado, then: we present the ultimate guide to successfully interacting with cam girls.
Treat It Like A Normal Conversation
Firstly, entering into a situation where sexual contact is implied and expected (even in a remote capacity like camming) can be nerve-wracking, particularly if you’re not very sexually experienced. It can put a lot of pressure on you and even cause you to completely close up if you’re socially awkward.
Thankfully, cam girls are used to these kinds of situations, and they’re extremely well-versed in (a) making viewers feel at ease and (b) easing private viewers into things at a pace they’re comfortable with.
What does that mean for you? You can just take things slow, have a general chat, and keep your mind off other things until the model has got you good and primed. And she will get you good and primed – at which point that anxiety and nervousness will be a thing of the past, and you’ll be ready to go with the flow.
Sounds obvious, right? Why would you not be nice? After all, the girl on the other end of that camera is a human being, and if she were sitting right in front of you, you’d be the perfect gentleman, right?
Unfortunately, while this may be obvious to you and me, it’s not always the case for some viewers. There is a certain subset of subscribers who act as if they’re buying a product rather than the time of another human being with their own thoughts and feelings.
And if you’re approaching the interaction as a commodity-based transaction, then you’ve no reason to respect the performer as a person.
This is, it goes without saying, a deeply wrongheaded and pernicious approach to take. Not only is it disrespectful to the girl, but it’s also a really fast way of getting the encounter terminated and earning yourself a block. You may also get blacklisted by other girls (cam girls talk, and they warn each other about shitty clients).
Bottom line: be nice, and be respectful. Not only is it simply the right thing to do, but it also means you’ll share an experience with the girl that’s more pleasant (and quite simply more fun) for both of you.
Don’t Bring Up Money – Or Use It As A Tool Of Control
Let’s be honest for a minute here – camming is a transactional relationship. These girls aren’t doing it for free, and it’s often their primary form of income. That means – and there’s no way of getting around this – that the money matters.
However, that doesn’t mean that money has to be the focus of any interactions with cam girls. In fact, it’s rather crass to bring it up at all. If you’re going to tip, tip. If you’re going to enter into a private chat, ask the girl if she’s willing to do that, then initiate the private chat. There’s no need to bring up how much things are (it’s all detailed in the bio/tip menu) at all, in most cases.
Beyond mere crassness, however, is intentionally attempting to use tips/tokens as a form of coercion/control. Suggesting that you’ll tip a girl after she’s done something is 100% unacceptable. Saying you’ll give her more money if she’ll cross one of her hard lines equally so.
The fact that these girls are earning money from their cam work – and that you are paying for that cam work – does not make you their boss, and it doesn’t give you any control over them.
This brings us back to the previous point in a way: you need to be respectful. And that includes how you handle transactions.
Always Get Consent
This sorta ties back into everything we’ve said here – being respectful, not attempting to use money to coerce or control, etc. – and again, some people might feel that because they’re paying for a model’s time, they don’t need to get consent for things. If you’ve paid, then you can do what you like, right?
Not really. It doesn’t matter how much you pay; the cam girl on the other end is still a human being with her own agency and her own feelings. If you treat her like shit, it’s gonna be a huge turn-off (and may end up with you earning one of those blocks we talked about).
The fact is that getting consent is not only respectful and acknowledges the girl’s agency, but it’s also kinda sexy. Girls dig guys who don’t disrespect them or downplay their ability to make their own choices. Even when money is in the equation.
That said: whenever you’d like a cam girl to do something, ask – don’t tell. Unless you’ve got a dom-sub thing going on, of course – in which case the rules and procedures for the session should have been agreed upon well in advance.
Interacting With Cam Girls is Easier Than You Might Think!
At the end of the day, interactions with cam girls can be vastly improved simply by remembering that you’re dealing with a human being, not a pretty box that dispenses sexy time after you insert enough tokens.
If you’re respectful and considerate and don’t attempt to strongarm the girl into doing stuff she doesn’t want to do; chances are you’ll have a good time.
And if you’re simply shy and don’t know how to handle things? Don’t worry. She knows exactly how to handle things. So just relax (or don’t) and have fun.
Now, get out there on a leading cam site and put these tactics into action and see the positive results it will bring. Have fun!